What really matters?

I visited today with a friend and brother who suffered a mental breakdown recently. For almost a month he wasn’t answering the phone or the door; and when he did answer the phone he just sounded like a stranger.

Talking to him today about our friendship and how I and others at church love him, I felt very led to help him see that what is important in our lives are never, ever, the tangible things. Sure we like hugs, we love to have our wives, husbands, daughters and sons around to touch and kiss and so on. But, none of these things can exist or happen without the existence of the intangibles: love, peace, hope, joy, sympathy, time, kindness, loyalty, friendship, forgiveness, and an almost endless list of things.

None of these things can be bought, sold or hoarded. Neither can they be recovered when lost between two people. No, all theseĀ thingsĀ are gifts from God that we must SHARE with one another.

Pity the man or woman who has no friends, no hope, no joy. No matter how rich or successful or famous a person is, they need these intangible things. You won’t live very long without them because they are the elements of life itself. A hateful, angry and selfish person isn’t really living anyway.

These gifts are best appreciated, when they are given and not deserved, given by someone who suffers in order to share them, and when they are returned in mercy.

Seems we all have a measure of God’s grace given to us to treasure by sharing, or lose by not caring.

“He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves wealth with his income; this also is vanity.”
(Ecclesiastes 5:10 ESV)

“Better is a little with the fear of the LORD than great treasure and trouble with it. Better is a dinner of herbs where love is than a fattened ox and hatred with it. ”
(Proverbs 15:16-17 ESV)


4 responses to this post.

  1. I’m so sorry about your friend. I’ll remember to pray for him. He’s blessed to have you in his life.

  2. Life can sure be tough, even for believers.

    You are a good man to go to your brither in Christ and encourage him.

    I’ll pray for you both.

    – Steve

  3. Thank you both! Isn’t it wonderful to be in the body of Christ?

  4. Your friend is blessed to have you — though at this difficult time, he may not see the blessing as he should. I only say that because at difficult times in my life, it was not as easy to see the blessings through what I perceived as a forest of trouble. Without the “intangibles: love, peace, hope, joy, sympathy, time, kindness, loyalty, friendship, forgiveness, and an almost endless list of things” we are but a mere empty shell for all the riches in the world will not satisfy a warm hug from a loved one.

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